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Guiding you to shift reactive patterns so you can experience the YOU underneath conditioning and finally feel secure and connected in relationships. Your host is Eva Beronius - Love Coach, transformational teacher and founder of Embodied Self Mastery.
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EP185: Training Your Heart to Lead Instead of Hide (and What I've Practiced Lately)
This episode dives deep into transforming how we relate to ourselves and others by flipping destructive narratives that keep us trapped in cycles of self-improvement. True self-esteem doesn't come from eliminating uncomfortable feelings but from growing your capacity to be with them while believing you deserve happiness.
I share my journey meeting with two touchy experiences in my own relationship dojo:
👉 Daring to express genuine feelings to someone I care about
👉 Tolerating separation without panic
Realizing that my nervous system capacity for those two was in all honesty quite crappy, got me to meet with patterns that came from past trauma and unsafety. What once served as shields were now limiting authentic connection.
Listen to understand how you can move through similar friction points in your own dojo - whether you're dating, in a committed partnership or simply growing.
This isn't about waiting for someone else to change—it's about changing how you relate to what's happening inside you. Go first in love, starting with how you show up for yourself, and watch as that ripples outward into all your relationships. Are you ready to become the loving leader you were always meant to be?
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I'm so glad that you're joining me in this relationship revolution and flipping the old narratives of I'm broken, I'm insecurely attached, I'm having all these reactions and not until I fix that will I be able to be whole, be loved. And that is exactly the narrative that has often kept us in that experience of being broken, unlovable and keep working harder and harder and harder. All the courses, all the programs, all the books, all the therapy to try to get to this peace, but just seeing that that's a part in you kind of projecting, telling a lie that, yeah, just isn't true. So, this relationship revolution, we are flipping that narrative. We are looking at relating differently. We're looking at what's usually called insecure attachment, which is like, yes, your nervous system feels unsafe and you can guide yourself through that and by learning the skills to do so, you're becoming a relationship leader like, above the level of many other people. Okay, because you're learning to meet with these uncomfortable reactions inside of yourself that many people don't. And just seeing that as like, instead of being disqualified, you're actually getting more training in love than anyone else and you're going to be, and you are a phenomenal partner for it, as long as you don't believe there's something wrong with you. Okay, so we're continuing this relationship revolution, season three, and I want to follow up on last week's episode.
Eva Beronius:In last week's episode, we talked about how do I know what to practice If we're calling whatever relating dating, long-term relationship situationship or the relationship with yourself that you're in a dojo, if that's your training ground, then how do I know that I'm practicing the right things? How do I know that I'm not like staying too long and overriding my boundaries and my needs, or if I'm giving up too soon, like how do I know that I'm practicing the right things? And we talked about that being the compass being are you increasing your self-esteem by what you're practicing? And the self-esteem is made up of two components your capacity to be with any hot burning sensations inside of you, which is ultimately like how you're reacting to what's showing up in life. So, growing your capacity to be with all of that inside of you anxiety, sadness, anger, jealousy, insecurity, whatever that is is actually growing your self-esteem, opposite to what the mind often tells us, like we're going to feel better about ourselves once this is gone, like. No, it's about you being able to cope. And I take it even further. I say loving that Love also this We've been rejecting so many aspects of ourselves very loud or very subtly.
Eva Beronius:So the second piece to growing your self-esteem, like we talked about and if you haven't listened to that episode, go back because, yeah, I'm diving way deeper into this but the second piece for growing your self-esteem is feeling that you're deserving of happiness, and often we show up in the world like we don't deserve happiness. Oh, I have to work harder, I have to put other people first, I have to, I have to, I have to. And this is all coming from like a fear based belief system where we're constantly protecting ourselves from hurt and pain. Right, so actually making our nervous system safe to feel good. We've been so used to tracking everything that feels bad and trying to avoid that. So instead, like, do I deserve to be happy? Can I receive a happy moment, can I be in that and can I create a life long term?
Eva Beronius:I talked with my being Me members yesterday and we had this big topic and I went a little crazy with the analogy of growing your inner garden. That's really what it is. You need to plant the seeds for a happy life, and I don't mean happy in the sense of you should feel twinkly and you know all good all the time. No, that's not happiness for me. For me, I feel the most happy I've ever done in my life, but it's a sense of a raised bar underneath everything I'm feeling. So it's almost like happiness, isn't this emotional state anymore of, oh, happy, happy. No, it's a sense of contentment, it's a sense of trust for myself and life. It's a sense of love for myself, underneath whatever emotional state, whatever life is throwing at me at the moment. So, do you dare to grow that in your inner garden long term?
Eva Beronius:And you know that with any garden, it will take time before a tree bears fruit, and it will take time before a tree bears fruit. So, are you willing to prepare the soil and plant the right seeds, not the seeds of fears and lies and oh, I'm not worthy, but like, slowly planting those seeds and tend to them with your love, with your care, with your faith in them, like, yes, I believe this is possible for me. And then, from there, like taking the action to care for that, to show up for that, to embody that, and slowly you will grow a very strong, lush garden, so opposite to what your mind might have been thinking like, so opposite to what your mind might have been thinking, like I need to fix this problem, I need to cut off this branch. No, it's about tending to a garden and you are a gardener for your whole life. What you're nourishing right now, in this moment, this week, this month, will bear fruit later. And if that's rejecting yourself, that's the fruit you know that will come from that tree long term and you might not notice it now, but you will notice it in six months and you will notice it in one year and your body will notice it and your heart and your soul will notice it. But investing into love, that will bear very different kinds of fruit.
Eva Beronius:And when I'm saying love, it's not even directed onto someone else, someone. In being me saying this, I'm like oh, this is my biggest revelation. Like leading from love it starts with me, it doesn't even have to include anyone else yet. Like it starts with me leading myself from love, tending to me from love, and that's also part of this relationship revolution, going from how do I make them happy to I'm tending to my needs. So you see, I can go on this tangent for quite long without losing my breath, but we're coming back to what? How do I know what to practice.
Eva Beronius:Okay, if the idea is I'm practicing what is growing my self-esteem, meaning my deserving to be happy and can I cope with, can I be with emotions, sensations inside of me, then I want to share what I've been practicing recently and what I've been noticing showing up in my system, because I want to make this a little more nuanced, because so many of the relationship dating advice out there, it makes it sound so black or white. If you're doing this, if you're staying with a person like this, it means that you're lowering your standards and you're not loving yourself. So I want to put this idea of practicing growing your self-esteem into the dojo, make it very tangible and sharing some my some examples from my own life. So I want to share two things that I've been practicing and they are very much connected. But the first thing is daring to say that I, like someone, I noticed this and I had no idea that it was this big and I also believe that it shows up differently in different connections.
Eva Beronius:But, as you can imagine, I've set a pretty high bar for the kind of relationships I want and always when you extend that, when you raise that bar, when you extend that idea of what's possible for you and what you want. You will come up against new layers, right. So things might have been really comfortable and good in one connection, but then you're like going, oh, I want more, I want, I want to show up this way. I want love, and partnered love, to feel this good. Okay, then you're going to get to meet with everything that's in the way. You're going to come up against those edges inside of you and expand them. And when I say that I've raised the bar, I don't mean by a list of 50 things that the other person should be. It's more about how I want to show up, what kind of inner leader and what kind of connection, intimacy, partner love is possible from that. And that bar has definitely been raised in the last couple of years since I stepped out of my latest long-term relationship. So I'm like, oh, there's a new horizon. I see more things are possible for how I show up, for how I want that partner loved to be. So therefore, ergo, new things are showing up for me.
Eva Beronius:I get to visit with deeper layers and one of the things was oh, my god, it feels really shaky in my nervous system to tell this person that I care about that. I like them. So what I how I noticed this was that every time I tried, I first, at the first it was like no wait for them to share, like the man should lead, right, I'm kind of over here and seeing if he likes me, so that was my default and like don't show too much interest. That feels like it's weak, like I'm giving up power. Um, and I notice in my system when I do, if I share too soon, he's gonna lose interest or he's gonna know he's he's got me and then he's not going to like me. Like interesting, interesting. So then when I saw this and I started practicing, that's when it got really fascinating, because it was.
Eva Beronius:It felt almost impossible for my nervous system and for my parts to open my mouth and say these things. So I could have journaled about them and been sitting with them and like really feeling into them and I could feel them really deeply in my heart, like yeah, this is how I feel and I really want to share this with this person, right, because, oh my God, I want them to know. It feels like keeping it from them, it feels like hoarding it if I don't say it, and it's both the gift for them to know how I see them, for them to know the impact that they have on me, but also, this is how I want not just love, but all expressions in me to be free to come out, because I know what happens when we hoard these things, when we hold them inside. They keep coming out sideways and we keep feeling really bad Okay. So I want that to be able to be there, like that expression to be free. So, as I started practicing and it's like really allowing myself to feel, okay, I really, I really enjoy this connection. I really enjoy how this person makes me feel and I want to share that with them.
Eva Beronius:All kinds of things started to happen when I tried to open my mouth. First, like nervousness, like in my nervous system, right, even though a part of me was like, yes, leading from love, other parts were like, even though a part of me was like yes, leading from love, other parts were like they felt like 9 and 10 and 13, a deflection, where I even asked him like hey, I want to share some things with you. And he's like, yeah, sure, and then, instead of saying what I felt, I started asking him what he felt. So I just wanted to check in with you. How are you feeling about our connection? So like, yeah, deflecting, chickening out, basically like, ah, this feels too scary.
Eva Beronius:So what I found was really important in practicing this and it wasn't so much of like I have to practice it's because I want to, because the person I want to be in relationship, how I want to show up leading from love, this is important for me. This is part of my values, this is part of that inner garden that I'm growing. So it's like this feels really new and scary, but I need to start feeling more safe doing this. It's not about it shouldn't feel safe. I want to practice feeling more safe. So then, what's needed? Right? So it's not about overriding it, feeling unsafe or calling myself stupid or parts of myself stupid for like, oh my God, this is terrible. I'm not able to do this. I'm a terrible person. I can't, you know, be what I want to be like. No, it's taking those parts by the hand, protector parts. They're like let's not say this to another person, because it feels like we're weak. It feels like something bad is going to happen. We're going to experience the rejection. I'm giving up my power to them. I'm in some kind of weaker position for having shared this, like, okay, hey parts, hey, protector parts, what do you need?
Eva Beronius:And also getting into the a part of me that had experienced painful situations with this, not just growing up with caretakers, with mom and dad, but also actually around boys. Growing up, being in elementary school liking someone and even feeling that inside, even not expressing, but just like feeling, ah, I want to be close to that person, I would like to be their girlfriend, like I want to be close to that person, I would like to be their girlfriend, and then having some kind of nasty rejection or them expressing how much they didn't want to be with me, basically. So feeling ridiculed, feeling like being made a fool out of and seemingly, to my grown-up mind, these are minor incidents, like you know, I shouldn't be over this by now is what the grown-up logical mind will say. Right, but I hadn't been with those parts fully and with those experiences, so I really needed to go in. And so I really needed to go in and process that sadness, that grief, that pain that my little nine-year-old and 12-year-old and 17-year-old didn't know how to be with, which makes sense, right, and I had no one there. I realized those were kind of lonely moments when I had to face these things. I didn't have friends to talk to in that moment that could be there and like, oh my God, that was. You know that was so mean and don't, don't make anything out of it, or you're wonderful and someone will, someone that really likes you, will express that. So I didn't have that. I didn't get to hear those truths that parts of me needed to hear.
Eva Beronius:So this part made its own conclusions, assumptions, and seeds were planted in that garden that grew this thorny plants around this part of me. It's like, no, it doesn't feel good to say that I like someone, or maybe even feeling like I love someone and that my heart is like opening for them and wanting to be with them, because that's gonna hurt. Okay, I'm gonna be ridiculed. I feel in a. I feel less than okay, good.
Eva Beronius:So in my dojo, what I did was going in and processing those emotions, without believing the stories, like fully feel. Like sitting with a part of myself that needed to have someone there and now I'm stepping in and being with that part and like, hey, honey, I'm holding you, like what you're believing right now is not true, you're wonderful. But also like feel this. Yeah, I know it hurts, I know it fucking sucks, okay, so feel this, but you're not alone. So it creates a new experience for this part where there's capacity to process that emotion.
Eva Beronius:So this feeling of like being ridiculed or something is going to hurt or be painful or someone's going to be mean to me when I say that I like them, obviously needed to be met with for me to step into that loving leader that I wanted to be, for me to step into that loving leader that I wanted to be, where I get to say like, hey, oh my God, I really feel incredible being around you, like my whole body lights up, I feel safe, I feel really attracted and without having to mean that let's get married, but just being in the moment of that experience, right, and like, oh my God, your impact on me and my nervous system, like it feels so good and I want you to know that, because that is really important to grow a connection, and I think many of us are waiting for the other person. So let's be the person that goes first in love, okay, and it's not about flattering someone, it's not about manipulation and sharing this to get them on the hook and like make them like me. It's being very honest, right, just like we can be very honest in the opposite direction, like, oh my God, I find you're incredible, but right now, what I want and what I'm looking for is not exactly this. This is the capacity to be more honest around someone else with how we're feeling, which is ultimately what will bring a deep connection where we actually feel seen. So if that's what you want you, you you're gonna have to meet with parts that feel fearful, scared around doing that, and I've had other experiences. So this was one of the big pieces that I've been practicing in my dojo, and a lot of that is a lot of alone time around it.
Eva Beronius:Right, going in sitting with myself, feeling these feelings, and then nervous system regulation, feeling safe again, to feel what I'm feeling like because protector parts would show up right and like, oh, we don't want to be in this experience, this is painful, let's end this, let's step out of this connection. He's not right for us. Right, Because of the uncomfortableness that showed up inside of me, but once that was worked through several times, right, because it kept showing up in situations like, oh, here's another layer, let's revisit it again. Let's signal to my system that it's safe to be in this. Again, let's signal to my system that it's safe to be in this. And every time what it came back to was, yes, I really enjoy this person, I really enjoy our connection and I want to stand for that.
Eva Beronius:So, coming back to that again and again, kind of journaling around it, feeling into it, taking walks and like feeling my heart opening up and being safe for myself as it was doing that, and then finding ways of like okay, as I practice I don't want to, as I practice expressing this to the other person what is a way that feels safe enough? Yes, it's going to feel edgy, yes, it's going to feel nervous, but I don't want it to flip over into a seven in nervous system activation where it's going to feel nervous. But I don't want it to flip over into a seven in nervous system activation where it's too scary, like how can I stay on the edge of it being a four or five Like? Okay, that's where I want to be. I kind of take the protector parts by the hand, maybe writing some things down so I feel safe and like not deflecting, pulling back from sharing it, like creating more safety around sharing it and being okay with, like, even if they don't worst case scenario, they're being a jerk about it Can I be with the emotions that's coming up? I'm like I reached a point where I'm like, yeah, I'm fine, even if they won't like me back. Okay, but this still feels important to express.
Eva Beronius:So can you see that that is practicing growing my self-esteem, because one I'm practicing being like, being with the painful emotions around this. So now I'm okay with whatever outcome. If I'm expressing something to someone and they don't like me back, I can be with that experience. It's not such a painful experience anymore that I need to run away from it. It's not flagged as unsafe, like I can be safe for myself in that and I even know what I want to say or if someone is treating me badly.
Eva Beronius:In that situation it's like, oh, I have new avenues, there's more freedom because I feel safer. I don't have to react from a survival response anymore. In that situation it's like a part on the map that I've now conquered, a part of the garden that used to feel thorny and all muddy and weird. It's like oh, this is a part of the garden that I've claimed. Now I've grown something that I feel good about. So I'm growing my self-esteem because I can handle a situation like that in a way that feels good, both in how I'm showing up, sharing these things with someone, because that's the person I want to be and also if I get some dirt back, like, oh, I know how to be with that and I've taken care of parts of myself that was having painful experiences in the past. So my self-esteem has grown from that too. Like, oh, I can do this. I'm growing that trust in myself and I'm standing for that sense of I want to be happy. I don't want to. I deserve to be happy. I deserve to express these things and have love being expressed back to me. Okay, and that doesn't necessarily come from what my protector parts would have said like no, this feels so too hard to express around this person. That means it's not the right person. Oh, it feels unsafe around this person. Like, no, it felt unsafe inside of me, okay.
Eva Beronius:So this is often where these Instagram advice, dating, relationship advice fall short Because we make it about the other person. They should make us feel safe. I want you to feel safe for you, whatever person you have in front of you. So, because knowing how to navigate situation doesn't mean that you go into long-term relationship with just anyone. You shouldn't. Okay, you should make that a beautiful decision making process for you. But, as you know, if you've been in long-term relationships, we can feel so good and hunky-dory around someone, like, oh my god, this is my person. And then, a year in, or two years in, or five years in, things start to show up where we get to face our deepest Things start to show up where we get to face our deepest, darkest fears and life happens. So, even if you feel super safe around someone, often if it is your person, it will bring out your deepest shadow, your deepest fears.
Eva Beronius:So, being in the dojo practicing this whether you're in a relationship right now, whether you've been in it for 10 years, for 25 years, or whether you're dating, dipping your toe in that pool and that possibility, exploring what it is that you want in a relationship this is so important to practice. It's going to grow the trust in yourself, is going to grow your capacity to have the relationships that you do want. So I promised you a second thing that I've been practicing. So, apart from telling someone that I love, I really like them, that I care for them that I have feelings for them, that they have an impact on me and that I enjoy being around them. I have been practicing having time apart without freaking out or basically allowing the freak out to happen.
Eva Beronius:So if you go two episodes back, I shared like my crazy episodes and how I moved through it, so that was a good example of that. And if you go two episodes back, I shared like my crazy episode and how I moved through it, so that was a good example of that. And if you go back to that episode, this was exactly what happened. I noticed a big wave happening from after expressing I want this and this and this with you. I felt vulnerable, I opened up and then a big contraction like if, according to my protector parts, I didn't get, uh, basically like a safe mom response oh my god, that's so beautiful. I want that with you too. Let's go do that, and I'm.
Eva Beronius:I don't mean to ridicule that, but I just mean that I realized that this was partly not only, but there was a smidge of a five-year-old in there that just wants to be with mom, right, and want mom to be immediately safe for that and that isn't a grown-up adult relationship, right, because they're carrying their fears and their capacity to express these things and when you're coming at them or sharing your most vulnerable sides, it doesn't mean that their nervous system knows how to handle that or that they have the skills, and I refuse to say that therefore they are disqualified to be in my relationship or in a relationship or be they're disqualified from being a loving person, just like I don't want to be disqualified for my fears, for my reactions, for my like. I want someone right that can see past that. Oh, so that means I need to be that person for someone else. And that doesn't mean putting up with inconsistent behavior or people like not showing up for you, but they might be showing up in a way that your nervous system not yet is safe with. So if you really start looking at it with open eyes, like they might actually be showing up consistently, yeah, there might be a gap there in communication where your nervous system goes okay, this means they are not the right person. It means they're not reciprocative, like they're not doing all these things that this list and this blog post on the internet says they should be doing if they are honoring and respecting me, if they're a good partner. But the more you start getting to know your own nervous system, you know that you're not able to always show up in the way that someone else expects or wants. And the same for other people, and they might go in the kind of opposite direction. Where you're wanting more connection. Their safety might be like okay, let's have a little pause here, a little gap, that's how I get to safety, or vice versa, right? So this, for me, was important to be with, was important to be with.
Eva Beronius:I noticed all the stories that my mind and protector parts was making when they this man, this person didn't respond the way that young parts of me wanted, but I was like no, I'm willing to sit through this and see. I'm not just going to take the first meaning that my mind is making up about this. And after observing it again and again, what I noticed? That the mind, that the stories that my mind was making, oh, this means they don't like me. This means this is over, it means they want to break up with me, like no, that was never true, even if it took longer for them to get back to me, like I was just practicing giving space and they would. They're like oh, and for them they have a different timeline For this person. He was like nothing has changed. I still like you, I still want to see you. Here are the circumstances. That hasn't made that possible. Right now, and I'm here, nothing has changed in how I feel about you. So that was very interesting data for my nervous system.
Eva Beronius:For my parts, they're like huh, and this has been a very strong, like recurring event for me, because when I was 14, there was a sexual trespassing event, a sexual abuse, and I realized that the biggest kind of trauma in that, the biggest pain in that wasn't, wasn't the actual trespassing. I mean, that was, that was painful and and all the things. And I I was alone for about two or three days after this. I was completely alone. I had no one to talk to, so there was a sense of isolation and where my system didn't know how to process this. Obviously I was 14. So that sense of being alone makes several parts of me feel like they're falling into this black hole. Several parts of me feel like they're falling into this black hole. So anytime like someone is kind of pulling back or not being there, it's easy for that hole to open up inside in my nervous system and go. This is terrible, we can't stand it.
Eva Beronius:So all the emotions that was felt and unprocessed and so chaotic and my mind couldn't make any sense of that I experienced in the days after this abuse that's that's coming up. So again, this is, of course, a beautiful opportunity to then be with that, to love on that. Oh, my god, of course I couldn't. I didn't have the capacity, and you know I've been in therapy and doing a lot of this the work from alchemy, the embodied self-mastery work, the work from being me with this, but just noticing like here it is in real life, oh, oh, it gets activated in those moments and this is where it traces back to Okay, beautiful. Of course I didn't have the capacity then to process this and now, after also being held and supported in it, I do have the capacity. So it's like, hey, welcome, there you are again.
Eva Beronius:You feel completely lonely, you feel that life is over. You feel that you don't know, there's no one there for you, no one's ever going to show up Like you're all alone. That's what's being felt right now. Alone, that's what's being felt right now. It doesn't even have so much to do with the situation, it just gets activated because something in this reminds you. Oh, I shared a moment with someone. I opened up. Then this happened and now I'm all alone. I'm feeling all of this. No wonder opening up to someone or you know, and then having a gap in communication after feels unsafe.
Eva Beronius:Okay, and that doesn't mean that abuse is happening now. It doesn't mean that someone doesn't like you. It just means that they have no idea what's going on inside of you and they have a very different experience of life, where they've grown certain patterns and are showing up in certain ways in these situations. It doesn't mean that they don't want to love you, but they don't yet know how to do that. And maybe you haven't even gotten to that part of the relationship. Okay, maybe you're getting to know each other. Maybe that's not where you're at.
Eva Beronius:So, first and foremost, instead of so much, they need to do this differently, or I need someone who can do this. I always go to myself first. Can I give this to myself? Because not until I can give it to myself do I have good capacity to show someone else how to do that, because of course, it's going to feel great to just like hey, can you hold me a little bit? You know, can you text me and tell me the three things that you really enjoyed about our latest date or something, but not until you feel like safe and we're coming back to this now, deserving of that which won't really happen and be embodied.
Eva Beronius:Until you can give that to yourself and parts of you feel that they deserve having that from you, will it feel clearer to ask for it, because otherwise it will come out as um instead of a request, it will come out as a demand and people will sniff this out. They're like, oh my god, this person is gonna fall apart if I don't do this and I have to do this or else this doesn't that. That doesn't feel good. Someone else's system right. Just think back of a situation where someone else has kind of asked that for you from you. If you don't do this, then like no, we want this to be a gift. So it's when you can give it to yourself, then you can request it. But it's coming out much clearer, much cleaner from this thorny mess that it's been in with all these beliefs about.
Eva Beronius:If you don't do that, I believe that I'm not worthy of love. Like, no, like, of course, I know I'm worthy of this and hey, would you mind holding me for a moment, just moving through something Beautiful. That's going to come out a lot clearer when you're able to do that for yourself. So that's why, instead of like, let's look for the partner that can do that, like maybe maybe I'm not saying this is true, but maybe play with this, maybe that you have someone in front of you that are not able to give that to you is the biggest fucking gift, because it will force you, if you haven't already, to turn towards yourself and give that to yourself, like okay, I'm going to grow from having this skill, so maybe it's not an error and maybe it doesn't mean anything about you.
Eva Beronius:Oh, I've chosen the wrong partner yet again. And you see like they're not showing up, like, no, maybe this is the gift, maybe this is the opportunity. So I hope this is helpful in making it both more tangible of what I mean when I say practicing in the dojo and practicing growing your self-esteem, and also making it more nuanced instead of oh, I deserve to be happy. Therefore, I shouldn't have a partner or someone dating that doesn't come pick me up or massage my shoulders or whatever, because then that means I'm settling and not deserving to be happy and I need to grow my self-esteem. It's like no Self-esteem will come from not so much someone else giving that to you, but you giving it to yourself. So that starts reflecting out.
Eva Beronius:Because, funnily enough, I've seen it again and again when we start treating ourselves this way, people that have been seemingly with no capacity to treat us in that way, they start showing up Because there's a way in to us now. Where there before was like all these thorns and they didn't know how to get past that, there's like now, an open path and it feels clearer and more obvious. So now they start to give that, while before it seemed like they didn't know how to or resisted it. So the magic and the power is really inside of you, and isn't that quite amazing. It's not about that anyone else needs to start doing something differently. It's how you relate to what's going on inside of you and how you relate to that situation that can change and that will change the whole dance, the whole experience. The power is in your hands.
Eva Beronius:This is leading from love on, exactly what I want for you Leading from love inside of you so that it can ripple out into your relationships, into your partner. Love Go first in love, and that means starting with yourself and how you're showing up for yourself. We'll continue this journey next week. More topics to explore around this relationship revolution and how you can practice in the dojo of relating, of opening ourselves up to more love and becoming the loving leaders that you were always meant to be, according to me. See you soon.