Ep 135: From people-pleasing to saying NO from love

People-pleasing isn’t just a bad habit—it’s a protection mechanism rooted in your nervous system.

In this episode, I break down what people-pleasing really is, why it feels so hard to say no, and how to shift the pattern at the root—without shaming yourself or forcing a boundary that doesn’t feel safe yet.

You’ll also hear a real-life session where I guide Karen through this exact process using the Four Pillars of Embodied Self Mastery. In just 15 minutes, she moves through the emotional layers and accesses a clear, grounded NO from love—not fear.

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Check out these related episodes:

Ep39: Understanding survival response and how it’s running your inner work

Ep110: Making suffering your ally

Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds

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